Claudia Schiepers

October 7, 2008, 4:12 pm
Filed under: sex

A friend sent me an email yesterday with this link and a big smiley. The first time I read it, I was smiling (only a little bit), but the second time I read it, I got really, really annoyed with the author of these so-called tips for men and how to act in bed.

What gets on my nerves is the arrogance of the lady who wrote it. Who does she think she is that she can just define what all women like or dislike? If she would have written it more from a personal angle, as in, I don't like to do this and this, it would have made the article a fun read. Now it is just obnoxious and frankly, she sounds quite boring.

I could go point for point and tell you where I think she is totally wrong and how I love some of the things she hates and vice versa, but that would probably be just what you want, you dirty minds. So I'll just give you my own 3 tips and let you get on with it:

– Talk. Seriously. Sex gets better the more you talk about what you like and don't like. Some like it soft, some like it rough, some like it fast, some like it slow, some like to be touched everywhere, some like a lot of kissing, some like it in all different poses and some just like to do something different every time. There is no way you can know how to please each other best unless you have been together for a very long time and recognize what each twitch and sound of your partner means. Just talk. And don't be afraid to ask stuff. It's better to ask than to assume.

– Try things. Really. It's easy to say: "Nooooo, I would never do that!" I suggest you try it anyway. Then at least you will know for a fact whether you will like it or not. You might be surprised sometimes. Also, this goes for men and women. And no, this does not go for things involving kids, animals or other people. If you want a threesome and he or she doesn't, live with it or leave.

– Respect each other. In every way you can imagine. I don't think this needs any further explanation. (Respect has nothing to do with a good smack on the butt, by the way 😉